Friday, September 23, 2016

People Leave Managers, Not Companies

A few weeks ago, my brother shared this on Facebook. It rang so true with me, that I then shared it as well. (You can click on it to enlarge it).

It rang true because I had just quit my job (having been hired at what I now think may be the coolest place ever to work) and I had quit because of my boss. Not because I felt like I needed more money or more incentives or what have you.

Here’s the story.

During my first year of teaching at that school, I’d had a parent who was absolute hell to deal with. She talked about me behind my back to anyone who would listen. She blamed me for pretty much every issue her daughter had. She stirred up other parents, who perhaps would have just been upset about something, into irate parents. She gossiped and talked about me all year long. At the end of the year she came into my room and told me she felt sorry for every student that would ever pass through my classroom and she couldn’t figure out how I had ever been hired as a teacher. (This was the same year my boss told me I did a “phenomenal” job (I blogged about that here).
The second year was better. Some parents had been stirred up by the horrid woman the year prior, so I had issues with a few, but not more than a few. But what teacher doesn't? You can never please everyone. A friend who was a teacher for 30 years once told me that there was not one year that was complaint-free. It is the nature of the biz.

At the beginning of last year, when I met with my boss to come up with my personal and professional goals for the year, he gave me mine. Now, he had always given us our professional goals as a school, something he wanted us all to work on as a staff. This year he decided that my personal goal was also to be set by him. I guess he didn’t realize that would not exactly be a personal goal, then. Maybe he didn’t care.

He told me, in almost these exact words, “I want you to figure out why high-maintenance parents, when they have their child in your class, go ballistic.” I didn’t word it that way on my professional growth plan. I was more professional than that.  But maybe the clue that this isn’t a great goal is in the words “high-maintenance parents” in the first place.

Also, how exactly, is one supposed to go about figuring that out? Most of my colleagues agreed that this was a ridiculous “goal.” Nonetheless, I tried to do something about it. I tried to talk to a parent from the previous year. While she gave me a little to think about, she was not very forthcoming or specific, and I was left to guess at the particulars. I also called my former boss. Being quite a bit like myself, having worked with me before, and being a tell-it-like-it-is person, I knew I could count on her to give me some advice. Finally, I talked with a co-worker, who is a no-nonsense person like I am, but seemed to have great relationships with everyone.

I shared all this with my boss at my mid-year review, to which his response was an attitude of, “Good. You’re working on it. You’re aware.”

Now let’s skip to May of 2016. I walk into his office for my end of year review, and he makes small talk for a minute or two. Then he tells me that “my issue” (hang on, didn’t you instruct me to find out what the parents’ issue was?) still had not been taken care of. I.e. I was still having problems with parents. He made comments like, “We can’t still have you here in 8 years and still be having this problem” and “Is there anything else you’re certified in?” (i.e. where else can we stick you that you might not have such problems?) and “maybe you’d be better in a higher grade” (because 6th would be better than 5th?).

I was then told that he would not be handing out bonus pay that spring. “Just to me?” I asked, “or to everyone?” “Just to you,” he responded. “I want you to know I’m serious and you need to correct this problem.” Then, too, I was told I’d be getting a .5% cost-of-living increase. That’s almost more of a slap in the face than 0%.

I was so shocked that I just agreed, and walked out of the meeting. And cried all the way home. I’d been made to feel lucky to have a job.

I was upset all weekend. I talked to former-teacher friends.

They all thought my boss was an ass. The reality is, he's not. But he's a horrible manager of people. Only a novice manager would deal with people the way he dealt with me and then realize he'd made a mistake.

Realized he'd made a mistake?

That's right. I went back to work on Monday and asked to meet with him again. 

I told him he'd blindsided me Friday. I asked him why he hadn’t given me any indication through the year that this was coming. I asked why I hadn’t been told my bonus pay or cost of living increase was on the line. I wondered why there hadn’t been documentation or meetings throughout the year about any of this. I wondered why, if I hadn’t been given any indication, was I being docked pay. I asked why I was told at the beginning of the year to figure out why a couple parents "went ballistic" when now it was seeming that that wasn't really what he wanted me to focus on.

He agreed with everything I said, at one point saying, “I agree. I did not do a good job all along the way of saying ‘this is how serious’ I am…then all of a sudden it was, you’re in the gallows.”

Then I asked about what this “issue” with parents even was about. Of the 45 students I had over the course of the year, I had issues with four parents:

                *One parent went to meet with him because I wouldn’t let their daughter eat chocolate cupcakes for snack at 9:45 every morning.
                *One parent had her child relay something that had happened in class a bit incorrectly. Mom was livid. Mom met with my boss. My boss, when I saw him later and asked what the meeting was about (because I didn’t know at the time), joked, “Oh, you were just mean to her kid. Come see me sometime if you want to know about it.” He seemed so nonchalant to me thatI didn’t question him further. Mom kept insisting (to him) on a meeting with me, which my boss told her was being taken care of. He led her to believe that he’d spoken to me about it. When she finally contacted me, and I told her that was the first I was hearing of the issue, she went to the board about him. Incidentally, it took a ten-minute conversation between her and I for understanding to be restored and the incident resolved. 
                *I made a child cry in my class. I didn’t do it on purpose. Sometimes a teacher misreads how a student will react to something. Her parent, who had been quite friendly to me for two years prior, never spoke to me again, and she and her husband wrote a very rude letter to my boss about it. 
                *One parent told my boss that she felt I didn’t care about how her child did academically.

So I asked my boss if there were others I was unaware of. His exact quote is, “There is nothing that’s happened that you don’t know completely and know full well,” and then specified once again that there had only been three or four issues.

Then he told me it wasn’t the number of complaints, it was what they were complaining about – i.e. that I seemed to have this attitude of “I taught it, your kid didn’t learn it, too bad.”

Ok. So of the above four issues, that would only apply to the last one, maybe the last two, if we're being generous. I then went on and on talking about that last child/parent, and my boss kept asking for clarification on who they even were. So the one point he was concentrating on, he couldn’t even remember the parent or the kid.

I later found out that I actually wasn’t the only teacher he’d done this to. He’d blindsided two other teachers at the end of the year, and both of them also didn’t receive bonus pay or cost-of-living increases. Possibly there were more I was unaware of.

In the end, not only did he agree with pretty much every one of my counter-points, but he told me he’d go back to the board and talk with them about reconsidering the bonus and increase. However, I met with the board president after that, who told me the board really doesn’t have much power. They just go off his recommendations. No documentation, no proof of training or meetings with the teachers, nothing (I was told that would change).

I did end up getting some money, but it didn't really matter. That wasn't the point for me. The point was, I should never have been docked pay or blindsided like that. If there was an issue he was that greatly concerned about, it should have been made clear and there should have been constant communication and feedback throughout the year. True, had I not found another job, I would have stayed, but always with my “eyes on the back of my head” open, knowing that I was working for a loose cannon.

Here’s why I say that:

1) The professional growth plan is a two-page document. On it are a number of teacher requirements: assessments, knowledge of topics, lesson design and planning, classroom management, student performance, supplemental responsibilities, and commitment to the school. In fact, the only place where "issues with parents" might fall is under the heading "Professional, positive communication," which is one bullet point of the 33 listed. I never had a bad comment or review about any of the others. But I was docked that severely for that 1/33rd of the document.

2) Won’t a boss who knows the people under him need training or regular meetings to discuss progress on issues provide those things? A good one will. A bad one will just let things go and then present his seriousness and consequences without any prior notice. And then present that to the board.

3) He became condescending. He said to me in that follow-up conversation, “I don’t think a school functions well [when teachers work independently] and I don’t think generally teachers function well. I think you probably do, and I think you’re…I betcha if you had an IQ test you’re well above average in IQ…” I’m sorry, is you mentioning that I'm intelligent in this context meant to be a compliment?

4) One of the final things he said to me was, “It’s important to me to treat you fairly and to believe you were treated fairly.” That was obviously lip-service, something that became important after I called him on this stuff. It hadn’t been high on his priority list prior to that.

5) I began to realize it was feeling as if he was gunning for me. For instance, he said that both my co-teacher that year and the teacher I’d worked with the previous two years said they “had a hard time working with me.” I went and talked to both of them after he made that comment to me, and they both said those were not their words. Then the woman who had been my TA the first two years I’d been there told me that he’d pulled her out into the hallway one time and asked her if I was difficult to work with (she gave him a resounding no). He was planting that idea in others and telling me that was how others felt about me.

There are other things I could add here, but in order to keep this about me and not write things about other teachers who possibly wouldn't want their details out there, I won't.

All this said, up until that end-of-year meeting with him, I was completely happy at my job. Ariel had been encouraging me to quit after the first year, but I didn’t want to. I liked it there. I wasn’t itching for more money (something I would have had at a public rather than charter school) or perks of a public school or anything. I – until that meeting – had felt respected and valued.

In closing, I want to say that it was not that my principal didn’t have a couple good points. It’s not that I thought there was nothing in myself I couldn’t change. But I had been made to feel like my time there was limited, and I would rather leave on my own accord. I could no longer work for someone who'd handled one or two parent complaints like that. When does a teacher never have one or two parent complaints? Never.

So I took my expertise and amazing test scores and great relationships with the students elsewhere. And so did two other teachers. He lost three out of 16 elementary school teachers between May and August. I'd say those odds are a bit worse than 1 out of 33. But what do I know?

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Miscelaneous Japan

Well folks, this is my last post about Japan - just a few random musings.

First, they have western toilets for the most part. So many that I never had to use one of the kind below, though there are plenty of those, too.
Their western toilets are way better than ours. Every one of them has this "bar" attached to it giving you lots of options: heated seat, bidet, shower from the front, shower from the back, music, flushing noises (perhaps to cover the noises you're making?), and so forth. Yeah, they do toilets right in Japan.
Secondly, Japan is a mountainous country. Here in Colorado, we build passes that we twist up and wind down mountains on. In Japan, there are not passes, just a million tunnels and bridges. I wish I'd known when we first arrived - I would've tried to count them all.

Also, the food. Yeah.
Here's my favorite "ice cream sandwich." A thin layer of chocolate in the middle, vanilla ice cream, and a "crust" that tasted exactly like our cake cones.
Then there are rice cakes. We ate a million of these. You get them at gas stations, and if all you're familiar with is our gas station food, you know why I was hesitant at first. But with as much driving as we did, these were often our option of quick food and keep driving. And they are amazing.
Above, it's still wrapped. Below, unwrapped. A thin layer of seaweed over a thick cake of rice with various types of fish inside. Tuna or salmon or whatever. They were SO good! It's so unfair to get hooked on a food overseas that you know you'll probably never get again.
Speaking of food, here is a typical Japanese table at a restaurant. Notice the tissues for those who like their food hot, and the ash tray, because the Japanese are where we were in the 70s and 80s. Lots of smokers, smoking inside. Ish.

Another delicious meal.
This was the restaurant I mentioned a post or two back, where you order at a machine, then take your ticket to the guy behind the counter.
Another thing that I saw everywhere, especially at rest stops and hotels, are these toy machines. We have a lot here, too, but no where near as many as I saw in Japan. Ours typically run from a quarter to three. Theirs are anywhere from $2 - $5.

While they have some of the same types of toys as we do, some are very different. Toy nurses, anyone?

How about a knit cap for your cat?
I mentioned in an earlier post about the rain. People carry umbrellas constantly, because you really never know when it's going to rain. However, no one in Japan takes their wet umbrellas into buildings with them. Stores, hotels, restaurants...everywhere are these "lockers" for your umbrella. That way you keep the building dry and don't have to worry about toting around your dripping umbrella.
These two pictures do absolutely no justice to how many "rows" of mountains we could see on our final drive from Nikko to Tokyo, but I thought I'd include them anyway. It was sheer beauty.

This robot was in the Haneda airport. It only spoke Japanese, but was very interesting to interact with.
People in Japan dress just like we do, but occasionally you'll run across a lady, or a group of them, headed out in kimonos to a special occasion.

Rice paddies anywhere they can fit them. Forget about having a yard.
I took this photo in the samurai village we visited. 10-16 is my birthday, and we kept seeing those two numbers together everywhere. It got to the point that it was a bit strange. We had seen them our first night in Tokyo when it was our hotel room number, then again on a license plate in Kyoto. I also happened to look at my phone at one point at exactly 10:16. It seemed every day or two the numbers were popping up. Odd.

That's it. Thanks for enjoying the journey with me.

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Japan Day 10

One of the best things we did was go kind of out of our way to visit the Jigokudani snow monkey park. So unlike anything you would see in the States, we just paid our $5 entrance fee and walked into a world of monkeys. There were literally hundreds, literally everywhere.
They ran right past us, they fought right next to us, they slept and picked at each other and were generally just amazing. I thought we'd stay for an hour. We stayed for a good two. I did not want to leave!

They don't sit in the hot springs in the summer - it being too hot and all. But they do drink from it, and a baby fell in once, which was hilarious.

From there we again drove across the island, to the city of Nikko. I kind of made a wrong call when we got there, and took us to this place first, which I wish we'd saved until after we visited the compound of the former Tokugawa clan, because by the time we got there it was only open for another ten minutes, so we didn't pay the $10 or $20 bucks to go in.
This place was pretty cool, though, and after so many hours of driving over the last two days (and not done yet - we still had another 2+ hours to Tokyo in the evening), we really needed to get out and refresh, and this was the perfect place to do it.
There are many, many of these - what they call "ghost statues" - because they say that every time you count them their numbers change. We counted almost 90, but the web says there are only 70. It was confusing knowing what to count, because some of the statues were missing bodies, but the heads were laying on the stone blocks. Do you count those? What about the ones that are crumbling and hard to know what they were? Why knows. Here are two ghost statues plus one...

The statues were right next to this river. See why it was a good place to refresh?

The Shinkyo bridge, above. In feudal times it could only be used by the emperor. It sure looks like the stone supports are carved out of a single block of stone. Impressive.

These are just a couple photos of the outside of the Tokugawa shrine. From "Almost all of the present-day shrine complex was rebuilt in 1636, twenty years after Tokugawa Ieyasu’s enshrinement. Fifty-five buildings, including Yomeimon Gate (designated a National Treasure), were completed in just one year and five months. According to the shrine’s financial records, the cost was equivalent to of ¥40 billion in today’s money. One of the special features of the shrine complex is the use of paths and stairways that follow the natural topography of the site, allowing the arrangement of the shrine buildings in a pleasing balance to create a solemn, religious atmosphere. The buildings are lacquered and decorated with vibrant colors, and the pillars and other structures are covered in a multitude of carvings. The carvings are not simply design elements; they convey expressions of religious belief as well as scholarship and philosophy.
The shrine complex was registered as a World Heritage site in December 1999."
I'm bummed we didn't get to tour it. It's hard knowing you're missing something like that when you also know you probably won't ever be back.